When you find yourself in times of trouble resilience comes to me

 

Being resilient at times of trouble does not come easy, what we have faced over the last 6 months has shown how strong we can be as human beings. If we strive towards developing ourselves this has an overall effect of improving our performance professionally and socially.

Vision- resilient people will have a clear idea of what they are trying to achieve in their lives, and will have written this down somewhere. They are likely to review the vision from time to time, particularly when events seek to divert effort away from achieving the vision. The vision itself might be blurred; it should not be time constrained, but it should be feasible to achieve.

Interaction - is about how we behave towards other people. The only person we control is ourselves. However, to survive and achieve what we need, we must control the reactions of others to our behaviours towards them so that they, in turn, help us. This is known as reciprocity.

To interact effectively with others we need to understand everything that is going on in an interaction, almost reading the other person’s mind so that we can adjust our behaviour to respond to how we think the other person is responding to us. We need to explore and respond to the other person’s self-interest. Self- interest is our prime motivator and by feeding the self-interest of the other person, they in turn, will reciprocate and feed us with our self-interest. If we manage all this we are in control, and by being in control, we build our resilience.

 Relationships ‘If you always approach everyone with cheerful optimism, you will find that they simply have no choice but to respond in kind’.

In order for us to survive and prosper we need to forge relationships. These are many and varied that include acquaintances, partners, friends, all of whom have a different quality to them in relation to their strength, importance and power, and each appeal to a different aspect of our own need.

Determination Resilient people with high levels of determination have the capacity to achieve things that those with low determination tend not to be able to do. Determination is essentially self-driven, although can be triggered by a reaction to an event, and requires considerable focus on a goal, task or vision. People with high levels of determination also have high self-awareness -knowing yourself very well; high self-advocacy - being able to articulate your wishes effectively; and high self-efficacy - a belief in being able to achieve almost anything.

 Organisation - People who are well organised are able to cope with the chaos of daily life better than those who do not pay attention to organising themselves, preferring to rely on memory and luck. Being organised allows individuals to know where they are if their day is disrupted by unforeseen events. Organised people plan their week and their day in ways that ensure they start work immediately, and reward completion of nasty tasks by next completing enjoyable ones. Resilient people know where they are, and can control their working environment by careful planning and implementation.

 

Be resilient in your working day and let it filter through to your whole week.